How Do I Get Started?

We Coaches after a long period being trained and with the certification in hands are often asked the question,
“So how do I get started?”
Each situation is unique, and yet there are some general suggestions to offer:

• Take time to practice. Enhancing your own skill level will help you develop the efficacy to be more public in time.
• Begin with a person with whom you feel safe and with whom you already have a trusting relationship.
• Videotape yourself in conversations. Use the videos to self-assess yourself.
• Schedule formal times to coach. What gets scheduled gets done.
• Use visual aids such as DVDs.

In addition, you may find some of the following tips helpful:

1. If you are a new coach and have served in a different capacity in the past, tell your coachees up front that this is going to look different, feel different and sound different. Nothing fosters mistrust faster that misunderstood intentions.
2. Ask for volunteers to be coached. Tell them you are learning a new skill and would like to practice. Most teachers love to assist someone that needs help. After all, that is why they went into teaching in the first place.
3. Practice silently before going “public.” For instance, craft paraphrases on a notepad during staff meetings. Craft questions on sticky notes when you are in a team meeting.
4. Practice isolated skills. Don’t try to tackle them all at once.
5. Trust yourself. You know more than the people you are coaching. No one knows if you forgot some of the elements in a meditative question. No one knows if you forgot to try a summarize and organize paraphrase.

Above all, just get started! One thing we know for sure, you can’t begin helping others on that journey of self-directedness unless you take the first steps!